5 Tips For Baby Boomers When Dating After 60

Getting back into the dating scene later in life can be daunting for many. Where do you start? How do you meet people? What do you do? How do you balance your time together and apart? Remember, you don’t have another 60 years left to look for the perfect partner!

1.First of all, determine what you want. Are you looking for someone just to do things with in the community? Or do you want a person to share your bed with on a regular basis? Maybe you want the whole meal deal; fall in love, get married, and live happily ever after! Get whatever you want straight in your mind because you can cross a lot of people off your list quickly if they aren’t looking for the same thing. That doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind later, but know what you are looking for to begin with.

2. Look in the mirror and don’t scare yourself off. You aren’t 20 anymore, so neither is your body, but it’s the only one you have. Get used to it and look after it. The potential partners aren’t going to be 20 either, unless that is all you are looking for at this point. If it is, you may as well quit reading this because it won’t answer any questions you have. Someone your age is not necessarily going to have a perfect body either but they will be more understanding of the aches and pains you deal with.

3. Find out what language you talk. As long as you are from the same generation, there’s a good chance you will talk the same language. That’s a start and works if you are only looking for an occasional date. That doesn’t mean you will have anything in common though, for long term stuff. A person who spends all their spare time reading may be poorly matched with someone who wants to constantly be on the go traveling. Take time to really find out if you have anything in common.

4. How much alone time each day or week is necessary for you? If you’ve been on your own for a long time, you may not be willing to give up a great deal of your free time. It doesn’t mean you aren’t flexible to going places or trying new things. You only have so much time left to accomplish your bucket list so sometimes you have to be selfish. Then there is work versus retirement. A person still working fulltime trying to date someone who is retired can be frustrating. Holiday time is often the most problematic issue because that may be the only time for family get-togethers, etc.

5. Be very honest about your sexual compatibility. If sex is still a very important part of a relationship for you, put the subject on the table early in the relationship. This may sound crude to some but it is just as important as if you are looking for a traveling companion. You’d have no problem discussing that topic. Why should there be a problem discussing sex? And don’t forget to talk about whether you need something 5-star or can you happily settle for the hostel experience. There’s a big difference between the two and it’s really necessary, even after 60 years old, to be on the same page.

Dating after 60 can be a lot of fun if you take time to determine what you are looking for. There are a lot of singles looking for a compatible partner.